We’ve all heard the saying “Never burn your bridges”. Our parents and grandparents have screamed this at us for years. What is burning your bridges? How should you not burn your bridges? What happens after a bridge is burnt? These are just some basic questions that people need to know answers to. Apparently it’s okay to burn bridges these days because the bridge can be rebuilt just as quick as it was burned. Just a friendly F.Y.I… IT DOESN’T WORK LIKE THAT!
What does never burn your bridges mean? All in all never burn your bridges mean value your friendships/relationships that got you to where you are. As mentioned in “Friends, How Many of Us Have Them?” friendships/relationships are a privilege. The bridges built from these friendships/relationships should be treated the same. Yes, friendships can be rebuilt just like the bridge but is it really still the same after? (HELL NO!)
I know two young ladies who have been friends for years. Apparently one of the young ladies do not/did not value their friendship because she suffers from extreme LLS (liquid lip syndrome). LLS is a cause of a bridge being burned. LLS is a classic bridge burned for these reasons of 1. I trusted you enough to tell you something in confidence and you repeated to persons who needed not know. 2. You don’t value our friendship. 3. If I can’t trust you with words how can I trust you with anything else?. (This isn’t law, this is just how I feel about this particular situation) Burning bridges isn’t limited to just situations as such. There are many situations that will cause a bridge to go up in flames.
The hardest question of them all. After a bridge as been burnt, what’s left? Depending on the people and their relationship/ friendship determines the “where do we go from here”. I have had many people burn “our bridge”. Some of those bridges can not and will not ever be rebuilt. Then there are some who time and time again burns “our bridge”, and time and time again rebuild them. As I stated before things are never are the same after a bridge has been burnt and rebuilt, but those bridges are between myself and people I truly love. ( For the record just because I love them it doesn’t make their arson tendencies ok.) So before you go and devalue your friendship/relationship think about how much that person and their friendship/relationship means to you. Burning bridges can often be avoided. It’s up to the little fire bugs to want to avoid it.
Signed, Tink- The Word Vixen
Whewwww That LLS is a killer… probably worse than Cancer or any other deadly illness… In my eyes once the bridge is burned its gone! Poof… Vanished… Finite… once you burn the bridge I will still laugh and joke with you but in my mind I’m always giving you the side eye!!!
Keep a fire extinguisher with you at all times so that if you feel you may burn the bridge you can put the fire out REAL QUICK!!!
But if you suffer from LLS nine times out of ten ur saliva is mixed with gasoline… ain’t no turning back once the fire has ignited!!!
Wonderfully well put together. This one was a good bit of reading.
This is so true, it NEVER is the same after, after someone leaves you always have doubt in your mind, once they come back, whether they’ll stay much longer. You can never change the past so be careful when making decisions in the present… Good post!
I got my LIFE!!! This is one of the REALEST blogs true to this date that I’ve read! Keep it up Tink!
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Tips my yankee fitted to my fellow Saggie for this. Honestly people burn bridges with me all the time and as much as they know I don’t put up with the iffy shit I give people opportunity after opportunity to redeem theirselves. I personally burn bridges myself deliberately. I only do it with people that after a while I realize their no good in my life so I have no choice but to burn that bridge and let it go. I burned a bridge with my father over a female or should I say vice versa. I liked this post alot. Sometimes you have to figure out who’s most important in your life, who’s just in it for the long run and who’s there seasonally. It’s real out cheah. much respect.
Signing off, Ima_Writer
http://www.imawritersworld.com
Smh I JUST went thru this….me and my “first love” or watever u wanna call it we always remained friends once we broke up and a while ago he did some shit that was TOTALLY unacceptable and thought it was ok we went on not talking for months and then he calls me apologizing like he didn’t value our friendship or anything and that why we fell apart and he says “I hope we can remain friends” *click* I hung up the phone smh to me I feel once u burn that bridge I have no remodelers to come and fix it so its just left burnt now in some cases I pull out the $$ to remodel it but u gotta be a really great person for me to even care to rebuild our “bridge” great blog
WORD LIFE Tink, that LLS is a major reason 4 burnt bridges…the crazy shit is,some of those bridges stay burnin 4 YEARS past da due point.
Some ppl just don’t know how 2 UNCONDITIONALLY value each others friend/relationships. It has 2 b about MORE than just our commonalities…its about respecting each other’s space,business,opinions and all. We don’t have 2 agree,as long as the respect is there…the unconditional love 4 that person comes ez, therefore, The Bridge stands strong 4life!! We also have 2 be careful whom we leave those bridges open 4 as well..Another gr8 job babygirl…Ur on ya way!!
“Liquid Lip Syndrome” –love it!
also poignant– the notation of the arson tendencies of the beloved. *bbm thumbs up*