9 times out of 10 if you are dating, the male/female has kid(s). It’s very rare that they don’t. Welcome to 2010, what can I say! When dating your future partner (assuming that’s why you are dating them in hopes of them becoming your partner), when do you think it’s an appropriate time or time frame for them to meet you kid(s) or you meet theirs?
Me being a single mother with a young child, I do not allow my son to be around any and everyone I’m dating. As I don’t allow them around him either. Kids (especially young ones) get attached to people and things quickly. It’s confusing to them to see you with “Mike” one week and then “Tony” the next. As a parent period it looks bad. I’m even borderline skeptical on allowing certain associates around him because like relationships, “friendships” aren’t always guaranteed.
I have met several other parents who feel the same way I do about this. Some who shall remain nameless refers to them as “possible killas”. Which is true you never know. But if they are I’m sure you will see those red flags long before the relationship gets to a deeper level.Then some say they have to know that the person is going to be around a long time before the introductions can take place. Do you ever really know someone is going to be around for a while? You could date that person for years, get married then get divorced. And well after that divorce they are no longer around right? I’m not suggesting parents who date should introduce their kid(s) to the person or person(s) they are dating days after they start dating. I’m not saying weeks either.
What do you think is the appropriate time frame for your “mate” to meet your kid(s) or you meet theirs? 3 months? 6 months? A year? TALK TO ME!
Signed, Tink- The Word Vixen
Some people date forever and still dont know a thing about eachother so i dont wanna go by months but I think it all depends on how close yall are. 6-9 months is long enough to tell if a person is off their rocker or not tho so ill go wit that! lol
I don’t have kids so I’m one of those exceptions. I love kids by the way. I remember I was telling one of my exxxes that because this slore was bringing every nigga around her son. And I told her about that. I also told her that her son is going to look at her like “damn mommy was easy as hell” and not have any respect for her. As bad as it may sound it’s true. So Tink I’m glad you’re mindful of not bringing every dude you deal with around your son. Real shit
I think it varies by your dating habits. If you are a desperately seeking Susan dating Ricky,Ron,& Ralph in a week. Keep that sh*t private and as far away from your kids as possible.
I personally am doing the single father thing right now. And I happen to be seeking female companionship. Mainly a friend for now. Because I’m coming out of a situation but am used to a female’s presence. I’m also picky in what type of woman I associate with as it is. So you know they’re not meeting the kids for a while.
My kids actually do ask to meet whom ever she is that’s occupying my time on the low. They ask to meet her and either tear her down after she leaves or gives me the thumbs up. Lol.
I agree with this fully. Children become attached so easily that it is way to confusing for their sake to have to meet all these guys and wonder where they went and why they wont ever see them again, especially if the guy likes them a lot and played with them all the time. It’s just too much and better to wait!
I do not think there is a specific time frame to meet that certain someone. I’m not saying let them meet them the same day or week but when you are dating for a while you should start to feel the person out. You may not feel comforatable 1yr from now. Us as parents have to feel comforatable and sure this is someone we are going to hang with for a while. My kid is 18 now and her father and I have been apart since she was 6months old. in that time she only met 2 men i have been with that’s it. and the same with her father. We had that agreement when we broke up that we would not expose her to every person we were dating. Like i always say the killa is always watching. I did not even let men know where i lived i would meet them somewhere public *shakes head nope*. I did not want to put me or my child in any danger with the killa. So I think we just need to be xtra careful when it comes to our young ones. we are supposed to be there protectors. I agree with Rob her son will say his mom was easy and will not respect woman and feel it will be ok to disrespect women and it’s not.
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