Trust (noun): a : assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something b : one in which confidence is placed.
Trust is something that we as people truly lack these days. This massive lack of trust has come from experiences that one is not ready or willing to grow from. Trust is something that should be earned from individuals just like the title of friend and friendships. If you continuously give people your trust with out them earning it, you will end up one of the tons who have trust issues.
Who deserves your trust? Again like the title of friend and friendship(s), trust should be given to those who constantly shows and proves they can be trustworthy. If you have to ever questions ones trust(even for a mere two seconds) they do not deserve your trust. I’m well aware of the snakes that may be in everyone’s grass (we all have them), but you know those who are genuine.
When do you award them with your trust? Yes, trust is earned therefore it is awarded. You “test the waters’ sort of speak. How do you “test the waters”? Give the person or persons a small task, or even tell them a “secret” that “no one knows”. Make it seem so much more than what it is. If they can handle this task or not blab your business all about town. They may be trustworthy. Slow but surly feed them things you think you might can trust them with. Those who are not trustworthy will show their true colors during this period. When you see those colors, don’t ignore them. Know you are seeing them for a reason. Handle things accordingly.
In relationships, how do you move forward and allow yourself to trust again? Tink says, in order for you to trust again (just like loving again) you have to be willing. Willing to allow that person in and be open. Keep in mind that person might have minor/major issues with trusting as well, but may be willing to trust you. We can’t make our future pay for our past mistakes. It’s the past for a reason. As mentioned before you know who is truly genuine. If that wolf is deep in sheep’s clothing that you could not see that they’re a wolf… that person is a bad mother shout yo mouth. Those who are waiting for that someone to trust you and let you in, BE PATIENT. I can say this because I’m experiencing this first hand. Be patient and just continue to SHOW them that you CAN be trusted.
In a world of “I have to screw him over, before he screws me” can we ever trust again?
Signed, The Word Vixen
TRUE! Ive found it very hard to trust after I got cheated on with a guy I dated for 3 years. Trusting is so hard these days because you just don’t know who is telling the truth. But if you find that one good guy/girl you shouldn’t mess it up bc of trust issues…. this is a good morning read I enjoyed the post!
I CAN RELATE ON THIS TOPIC IN SO MANY WAYS. TO BE A PERSON WHO WEARS MY HEART ON MY SLEEVE, I TRY TO TRUST PEOPLE WHILE BLOCKING THEM OUT. I KNOW IT SOUNDS CRAZY, BUT I LET PEOPLE IN ONLY TO SEE WHAT THEIR INTENTIONS ARE. IF I SEE THAT YOUR INTENTIONS ARE GOOD, THE WALL COMES DOWN. IF THEY ARE NOT GOOD, THE WALL STAYS UP. GOOD TOPIC!!!!
*sigh* Okay this one almost brought me to tears… trust is so hard… especially when time and time again you are shown that you can’t trust people… Sometimes I feel like I should just shut down because clearly I can’t really trust anyone but Jesus and my Mama… and one friend in particular who I can share anythng with without it being repeated and with no judgement… *wink*
I can usually trust cuz I know that individuals will do what they want.. and it doesn’t mean everyone will do the same.
I dont trust anyone with everything and I think that’s important also.
Ive been known to trust people far too early than i should, which is the reason now im so guarded with most people, my trust is definately something you have to work hard to get, you gotta show and proove to me that your worthy of my trust before i ever even think about trusting in you.
this is true thats why i only trust a hand full of people. but theres two levels for me. mentally and socially. mental is the highest level because if you don’t know how i’m really feeling about things what do you really know about me? But i keep it socially with everyone. I let them know what i want them to know not what they need to… and when ppl gain both forms of trust thats when i can consider a person a friend. but thats just me.
My 2cents. My ex had me throw a flag on the play simply by asking my Facebook and email passwords.
1.That let me know she had trust issues with me off the bricks for no reason (I gladly gave her the passwords).
1a.She actually used the passwords! (Found nothing)
2.I didn’t desire to ask for feel a need to have her passwords. Until one fine day in december. Lol. And…wait for it…she said “why?” (And wouldn’t give it to me)
I said in one of your previous blogs that I’m in the market now looking for a nonperishable relationship. And I will look for the same BS signs. And nip it in the bud from the jump. For I have nothing to hide and I rarely lie. Just being honest.